It was too hot.
It was too cold
I didn’t sleep enough.
I dressed too warm.
I started too cold.
I didn’t eat enough.
I ate too much.
I should have had a gel.
I definitely SHOULD NOT have had that gel.
The coarse was too hilly.
The coarse was too flat.
It seemed like we ran uphill, against the wind THE ENTIRE TIME.
There weren’t enough water stations.
I trained too much.
I didn’t train enough.
It’s the wrong time of the month.
I’m still slightly injured.
I injured myself 1/2 way through and gutted out the rest.
There are a lot of complicating factors to running races. Conditions never seem to be perfect and a runner needs to adjust to the physical conditions around them. Last spring my goal was to run a 1/2 marathon in 1:40 in order to get into corral 1 for the Twin Cities Marathon. It didn’t happen. There was always a complicating factor. When I finally thought everything was working in my favor and I was going to run a very fast course I had run before….I injured myself. It’s always something.
While #2 was being reassessed by the school district I had a complicating factor which caused me to not pay enough attention to the process. My dad was going through a health crisis. He was diagnosed with end stage heart failure that winter and had an LVAD implanted about a month later. I was overwhelmed and felt pulled in two different directions.
The reason I share this information is not to gain sympathy, but to illustrate that there is always a complicating factor for families. On paper I was the perfect parent to navigate the convoluted system of special education and get the best services for my child. I did my college psychology research on learning disabilities, I worked in Special Ed., I was a 1st grade teacher, I felt comfortable with education jargon, I had a close and trusting relationship with the classroom teacher, I was a stay at home parent with flexibility to attend meetings, we had the ability to get an evaluation by a private professional, I had a strong support system of family and friends, etc. However, I was also dealing with another stressful situation and that lead me to drop the ball on #2 for a couple months and trust that the school was doing their job.
It makes me sick to my stomach to think that other families are going through the same assessments and IEP meetings every day….well, the “lucky” children who’s learning disability is alarming enough. Other children are just getting pushed aside and allowed to fall between the cracks (this was the tale of #1 before we moved him to a new school). What about the children who don’t have parents as well versed in dyslexia? What about the parents who are working 2-3 jobs to get food on the table? What about the parents who don’t speak English? Can’t afford an outside assessment? Do not have a strong social support network? Have never heard the word dyslexia? Had a negative educational experience themselves so accepts when their child fails as normal?
This weekend the New York Times had a Piece “No Rich Child Left Behind.” While reading it I couldn’t help wondering what role dyslexia plays in the equation of the middle and lower class not performing as well in school as the upper class. It is estimated that 5-10% of the population is dyslexic. Many people believe 20% of the population is dyslexic. It does not affect 5-10% of affluent children who are able to afford outside tutoring and private schools, but 5-10% of the entire population. Up to 10% of any classroom could be children with dyslexia, and our school district doesn’t recognize it and is not equipped to teach these children in the most efficient and effective way we know. If a child requires a special method to learn, such as the Wilson Reading System, in my district you are told to figure that out yourself, even if your child qualifies for an IEP. My district has one of the largest achievement gaps in the country. Dyslexia is not the main reason for our achievement gap, but I do believe it is a complicating factor. How many children out there are suffering with a learning disability and our schools are not equipped to help them?
My kids are fortunate. They were born into a family with resources. I have the knowledge, skill and financial ability (because of my husband’s job) to homeschool and tutor them individually with curriculum designed for children with dyslexia. This is not most people’s reality. Our situation is still difficult and we are stretched very thin at times, just like many families. We are not an affluent family, but we are definitely not poor. We have material and non-material resources and I was still unable to muster the energy to navigate through the educational system and figure out how to get help for #1 and #2 so they could learn and have the confidence to face dyslexia.
Our society needs to start recognizing dyslexia and do a better job of teaching these children. We can do something about this. It will always be a complicating factor, but it shouldn’t be the reason children fail.
For children with dyslexia, it’s time to
get better form,
rethink the goals,
believe in yourself,
and get back on track…..
just like injured runner.
Imagine the possibilities if we could help children with dyslexia before they failed.
All children deserve the chance to soar.